He turned, and was about to walk towards the door, when he noticed a drop of blood about the size of an old sixpence on the corner of the sink. He was certain it wasn’t there when he first came in. He studied himself carefully to see if his body had left this unsavoury mark on the white porcelain. “No, not me!” he said, positive that it was not his own body fluid. He glanced at the floor and noticed several other red spots which were leading towards the door. He followed the trail but stopped dead when he saw a dark shadow through the frosted glass. As far as he knew, the other offices, of which there were two, had all closed at five which meant he should be the only person left in the building. He wasn’t sure whether it was the remains of the alcohol playing tricks on him but he felt the hairs stand up on the back of his neck and he froze . . .
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Qingshan was left speechless. And then out of nowhere, he did the unthinkable and reached for Lei-Li’s hand and held it. All this time he had wanted to hold her hand, but he had never plucked up the courage to do it. At that moment, however, it felt right. It felt like the right thing to do. He then looked right into her eyes and she looked right back at him. She didn’t have to say anything for him to read the expression on her face and to know she felt exactly the same as he did. It was that one intimate moment that confirmed to Qingshan that he and Lei-Li were more than just friends.
“The lady stopped writing and turned to look at him. As soon as he saw her, he stopped abruptly, suddenly lost for words. Looking back at him was the most beautiful face he had ever seen, probably about the same age as him, in her mid-twenties. Stunned by her beauty he couldn’t help but stare as he felt he was looking into the face of an angel. He had never seen such beauty before. She had the most exquisite, fair, soft-looking complexion. She had beautifully almond-shaped, light brown eyes and her medium-sized lips were painted red, making her appear slightly sultry.”
Grandma Ling nodded sadly. Joie only knew very little about the Chinese customs when it came to wakes and funerals, but she didn’t know that a mother couldn’t attend her own daughter’s wake and funeral. So a mother couldn’t say a proper good-bye to her own daughter?
“That’s very stupid,” said Joie.
“That’s the custom,” said Grandma Ling sadly.
“Grandma Ling, how are you going to say good-bye to my mom, your daughter?”
“What happens if you turn up at the wake and the funeral?”
“Joie, in Chinese custom when it comes to wakes and funerals, we Chinese people take it very, very seriously. If the customs are not followed and obeyed, there will be bad luck, ill fortune, and disaster within the family.”
Joie didn’t say anything.
“Joie, during the funeral, you must send your parents off well and properly, especially for me, OK?”
She felt like she was about to have a panic attack. She didn’t know why she was having that feeling. And then she felt like she was about to cry. She wasn’t feeling at all excited and happy like she had been a few seconds ago. It seemed like the happiness and excitement was taken away from her. Even though she knew that she was a mother, it somehow suddenly seemed unreal to her. It was as though she had never been happy and excited about becoming a mother. She didn’t know how her feelings had suddenly changed. I am a mother. I am a mother. Those words kept going through her head, and it was making her panicky. Then an image of her mother popped into her head.
After what seemed like forever, Elena suddenly felt the strength and energy being drained out of her. She was also beginning to lose her consciousness. And she was beginning to find it hard to breathe and to keep her eyes open. At that point, she knew it was time for her to go. She could hear her family calling out to her and crying hysterically. Even though it was a slow death, Elena still managed to remain calm. There was not a point where she panicked. As her death drew closer, she looked at her family one last time before slowly closing her eyes. The last thing she could do for her family was to be strong for them, and by doing that, she wanted to let them see that she was going to die a happy and peaceful death without looking like she was in much pain. And as she took in her very last breath, she managed to leave a happy and peaceful smile on her face.